Virtue of the Week: Obedience
Objective: Define obedience rightly, distinguish it from blind submission, and choose one way to practice it.
Obedience is the virtue of freely submitting one's will to a legitimate authority for the sake of a good order — listening to and following those whom God has placed over us (parents, teachers, lawful rulers, and ultimately God himself). The word comes from the Latin 'oboedire,' which contains 'audire,' to listen: true obedience begins with listening. To a modern ear, obedience can sound like weakness, but rightly understood it is the strength to set aside one's own preference for a greater good. Benedict's monks vowed obedience to their abbot, and that obedience — far from crushing them — freed them from selfish willfulness and bound a community together so it could accomplish great things. The supreme model is Christ himself, who 'became obedient unto death, even death on a cross' (Philippians 2:8), and who said, 'I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will, but the will of him who sent me' (John 6:38). Two cautions keep obedience healthy. First, it is owed to legitimate authority within its proper sphere — not blind submission to anyone for anything; we must never obey a command to do evil ('We must obey God rather than men,' Acts 5:29). Second, true obedience is willing and prompt, not grudging. The opposite vices are rebellion (refusing lawful authority) and willfulness (insisting on one's own way).
Discussion Questions
- 1How is true obedience different from blind submission?
- 2Why did the monks' vow of obedience actually free them rather than crush them?
- 3When is it right to NOT obey a command, and why?
Your obedience challenge: this week, when a parent or teacher asks something, obey promptly and cheerfully — without arguing or delaying — at least once a day. Note one time it was hard and how it went.
Vocabulary
- obedience
- The virtue of freely submitting to legitimate authority for the sake of a good order.
- willfulness
- The vice of stubbornly insisting on one's own way against rightful authority.
"He became obedient unto death, even death on a cross." — Philippians 2:8